
Now for me to not sound a like a complete dick I beleive it was necessary to go back to my earlier forums on Facebook to get my point across..I went back into the files and I found the best possible forum that discussed my main objective in this blog..
Now the forum I chose had young females talk about an issue concerning a woman need for weakness so they can be needed? (very ridiculous) and I believe it was necessary to place a female who responded in the best possible way to the direction of this blog. Both females responded as such:
- Some women have a savior complex. They want to be wanted and need to be needed. Men who are strong and responsible do not need them in the same all-encompassing way that men who are weak and irresponsible do because strong men are not looking for a woman to fix or complete them; they are looking for a woman to complement them and to accentuate their lives, not to BE their lives. Women who have a savior complex are often incomplete in themselves and, instead of dealing with their own personal issues, they look for men who need a lot of help and support so that they can direct their energies towards them instead of on working on themselves. When men and women understand that a relationship should consist of two whole people creating a union instead of two broke people stumbling into one, they will experience much more fulfilling and meaningful relationships in the future. (L.Bush)
Now I'm not saying that their is a level of intelligence to relationships because the smartest man in the world could never rationalize something irrational that deals with our deepest human impulse. It just believe that insecurity is a cloak for some females.
The Wifey Material catch phrase is the weak mans attempt to be a pimp and at the same time if she is really strong the push that a "dumb nigga" needed. Now that's just a rarity if that situation is possible because the strong woman can sometimes be just as weak as the weak man thus ending up in a relationship longer then it needs to be.
Now could this be because of the "Independent" Word thrown around with the word "Woman" following it and some females use it as a means of empowerment when in actuality they are lying to themselves or the "Single Ladies" chant that asks for a ring but no substance. As if a ring fixes the real problem that you may have within. Personally I don't know..lol
But what I do know is that no female can be wifey material without a balance between both partners. Love is Innocence but a real Relationship is Maturity and to find real happiness you must encompass both. To be in love is innocent because it has no bias and is pure. I mean even a child can love without understanding it but to stay in love (maturity) their has to be a sense of growth within. If you cant mature then how can you really be "wifey" and how can you really take care of someone emotionally when you cant carry yourself in an emotional situation.
Hence why most females try their hardest to fix someone. Thinking they are "wifey" and then fail miserably. Continue to fix something that cant be fixed (men don't change understand that..we only adjust) Then expect attention after giving their all when trying to fix something was your downfall from the beginning
So what is they wifey?? Well to me the wifey is either a strong woman or an idiotic (dumb bitch..i said it) woman. Now most ladies will run to strong woman to define themselves which then confirms dumb bitch or delusional bitch. what ever is your cup of tea. Basically you can't be wifey material unless you engaged..lol..that simple. If you are not in a relationship or marriage that requires you to live together, pay rent together, hate each other, love each other on Tuesday through Thursday and sometimes on Saturday or ready to put up a lot of shit from your partner then go ahead and be wifey material and see how long you "think" you can survive. Because survival and sacrifice will be there and selfishness will get you no where.
So to all you "wifey" posers good luck and to the real Wives teach them how it is done..lol
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5 comments:
I can see tough love inspired this blog, Ur right most call themselves wifey material but don't take time to open themselves up to a guy, unless he's being chased by a whole bunch of women, and guys do the same im not gonna front but, women are the worst at it
I feel you..I am gonna make a Male Version of this blog so this isnt one sided son
Wow..You said ALOT. But understand the term "wifey" is a girls term to try and stake her claim on a man, ecspecially a black man,for a black woman...since we have become an endangered species on thier arm. We feel the need to stake our claim, and since we understand that,"He who finds himself a wife,surely finds a good thing.Proverbs 18:22",we feel the need to push that label qiuckly before we "lose" him.
I on the other hand, feel you and know that I do NOT need a label,"wifey" "independent" or "strog".I feel that my role is a "helpmate" or "partner" Ephisians 5:22. My role is to love, respect,uplift,gaurd and obey my HUSBAND...Not my boyfriend,or baby daddy, or booty call.
So, I am with you. Too many women look for labels to define thier role in relationships, but a REAL man will define it for his woman, and then there will be NO NEED for the word "wifey", they will only then be HUSBAND & WIFE.
Amen Amen Amen, I like reading what you have to say. I mean I am in a sorority as you know and let me tell you to be in a relationship and be that wifey material seems like all girls want. And im always like WHY??? Why rush into something, let it happen, enjoy time see where everything goes. And I thought there was something wrong with me for being one of the few girl in the back chillin just waiting. LOL Women are the worst at it but how many single man songs to you here.. ya feel me? Its the push for the girl to find a man, and if she has a man and he isn't perfect well damn all we have to do is change them to the way we want right??No wrong thats a quick way for disaster...
LLS...this should be showed to all Mo County girls. they are prime examples of tryin' to instill labels on their men jus to keep them around. They fail to understand that relationships are REAL and tangible, u can't just go around livin' somethin make-believe in hopes that it will all work out. most relationships tend to be based simply on titles, but the couples (especially ladies) fail to understand that titles are temporary. they might think it means something 'at that moment' but thats exactly wat it is, MOMENTARY.
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